open your mind and start living: Why the friendzone is bullshit and self-proclaimed "nice guys" are misogynists

iamawesomesobetterwatchit:

angels-and-angles:

As defined by urban dictionary, the friendzone is…

“When you are expected to support a girl you really like while she searches for a smarter, richer, and more handsome boyfriend. There is little you can do without feeling like a dick. All in all, one of the meanest…

When you are yourself friend-zoned, it sucks. So all reactions to it are to an extent justified. Nobody thinks rationally in this regard. But then again, I agree with the last part - ‘“Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”.’ 

So bloody true.

I agree with parts of this. A lot of guys put a lot of work being there for a girl that they like because, it seems obvious that a girl who usually dates jerk would find that refreshing. Or, maybe they aren’t as outgoing or experienced as other guys when it comes to the ladies. Too nervous or don’t know how to flirt. That kind of thing. I do agree with the idea that a guy who pretends to really be interested in a girl as a friend, only to drop them when they find out the feelings are not returned, is a complete asshole. That being said, I have personally never seen that situation. My best friend has been friend zoned three times, and he ALWAYS stuck with the girl after. So, yes, I agree if a guy does leave with feelings unreturned, he is an asshole. I can’t help but feeling however, that there is a difference between the guy who uses being a nice guy as a tactic, and ACTUAL NICE GUYS. Of course, you did say self proclaimed, so there is that. I guess I just think this was a little bit of a broad-sweaping statement. “ALL guys who get friendzoned become asshats,” is what I was hearing, and that isn’t true.

12:32 pm  •  26 February 2012  •  13,381 notes